BlueSkies1

What we want.

We want the side of you that is strong, eyes clear, grounded, healthy, humorous, balanced, beautiful.
We know this side of you, we've seen it.
We love you.
We don't wish ill on you. We react, we scream, we try to control, we sabotage in our ways, we fight fight fight...for you, and our relationship with you.
We're hurt. We're in pain because it hurts to see you destroying yourself. We hurt because you neglect us, but it isn't as selfish as it may seem sometimes.
We're sad often...very often...watching you passed out. You look so beaten, so worn-down.
We want you to care for yourself. We want you to care about not losing the life, loves, jobs, and people that love you.
It's not always about us. Sometimes we simply cry just for you. We remember you at your best when you are ON...healthy in your own skin...we miss that, and we adore you when you shine, balanced, sober, and you just being you when you're healthy.
Sometimes on this forum, it may appear we only want to attack you, belittle you, lash out in our pain, or lift ourselves up above you.
But that's not what is underneath it all...underneath it all is our love for you...and yes, our pain.

OhBoy

Wow. Every one of those thoughts has been through my mind.

CentralOhioDad

How completely true

Cyranoak

...you're on to something.

Thanks for sharing.

Cyranoak

ZiggyB

It's heartbreaking, isn't it?

One of my last messages to the axbf was "I just wanted something better for you than this"

But as we all know, it doesn't matter (to them) what we want.... it's all about feeding the addiction and only they can make the choice to stop hurting themselves.

lillamy

Yup. I've been divorced for two years, I've moved on, I'm not looking back, and that still made me tear up.

shawty80

if only it mattered...

that was beautifully written, madeofglass. thanks for sharing so eloquently what it is we all want for our loves.

Loopydays

Thank you Made of Glass - that is just I needed to read!

MsPINKAcres

I have watched that "light" disappear in several people that I cared about due to the disease of alcoholism & addiction ~
some are still in my life, some are not
either way -

I still wish for their hearts, souls and sanity - the light of life, love and recovery would shine in them again ~

thank you for sharing this!

PINK HUGS,
Rita

Hexipuff

MadeofGlass
That is so thoughtful and thought provoking
Thank you taking the time to share that with us

And you know deep down even in my drinking days I knew the one I love just wanted to see all those things for me.

I am being sober for me but there is a piece of my sobriety that is there and created by the love from my husband and my gift to him is to give him back the woman he married

Once again thank you so much for sharing this - it was wonderful to read

Hevyn

Just heartbreaking. Exactly how I felt about my beloved husband many years ago.

PaperDolls

Thank you for this.

debo5

beautiful. Thank you! Makes me really sad right now...

DesertEyes

Goodness, how beautiful and how true.

You guys want me to make it a "sticky"?

Mike
Moderator, SR

amy55

I vote "sticky"

ShootingStar1

I vote sticky.

BothSidesNow

shawty80

i definitely vote "yes" for making this a sticky.

MetalChick

MadeOfGlass,

That broke my heart. Thank you from an alcoholic.

DesertEyes

Done stickied under "Classic Reading"

Mike

Shadydeal

Oh so true! I felt/feel this was about my EXABF! Brought tears to my eyes!